The Vicious Cycle of Love Play in Pursuit of True Love

Love... is a state of the mind. It is an apocryphal tale that we can not choose whom we love. In truth, it has always been a conscious decision... one that like any other, we must stand up for. But once you let it in, it also becomes a state of the heart... one that could rule over all reasons. Love therefore, is both a conscious feeling and decision.

True, that love must be mutual between lovers. However, it is not always reciprocated the way we want it to... sometimes, we feel shortchanged and unappreciated... or worse, refused by the one loved. When these happen, can we simply change our minds and choose to stop loving?

Again, love is a choice, yes, but it is also a commitment to the decision you have made. Ergo, a full cycle love, otherwise known as "True Love" is one that lasts a lifetime.... and some even claim beyond. Its level of intensity may vary through time... but you and the one you love must continue to work on it together, everyday of your lives to reaffirm your decisions to love one another no matter how difficult the situation may be.

Sometimes, lovers measure love by the degree of happiness they feel when they're around each other... but happiness is a fleeting emotion. The reality of love is when you can afford to smile and give support to the other even when times are rough; not merely being concern about one's own pursuit of selfish momentary happiness. If during these trying times, either one gives up or leaves for another... then it was never real.

Thereupon, everything reverts back to a vicious cycle of Love Play. Its meaning, degenerated... stripped and debased... and you're back to square one... searching for that one elusive True and Lasting Love...